I’ve written in the past about why I think it’s a good idea to make a habit of going to confession every other week. The way I see it, going longer than a month without confession is usually too long, and it’s just easier to ask myself, “Did I go last Saturday?” than, “Have I gone yet this month?”
So when my husband and I talked a while back about making this “every other week” thing our normal routine, I thought it sounded like a great goal to shoot for. As in: if it works out, great! But if we can’t go here and there, no biggie.
I’ve since learned that, for Tyler, this “every-other-week” thing isn’t just a nice idea to shoot for. In a similar way to how we approach going to mass on Sundays (i.e. – We’re obviously going, and day is planned around it), my husband sees to it that every other week our Saturday has time carved out for reconciliation.
I’m almost to the point where I’m not caught off guard by this. When “every other week” rolls around, I’m still asking myself, “Is it convenient for me to get to confession today?” Whereas Tyler is asking, “How will we get to confession today?”
I recommend adapting my husband’s attitude, not my own! Because, more often than not, there is some sort of reason I can come up with of why it would be easier to skip. I don’t “feel” like I need to go, it’s far away, it’s right in the middle of the day, it’s not like I’m sinning in not going…etc. But I’m always glad when we go. (And, as it turns out, I always have something to confess!)
It’s easy (for me, at least) to take the Sacrament of Reconciliation for granted. It’s always there when I know I need it. But God is calling me to experience His mercy and His grace even when I don’t “feel” like I need it. Usually, He shows me that’s when I need Him the most!